Reading Your Own Eulogy

The Fight Club Team
4 min read

I read my own eulogy yesterday.


Wait, let’s back up a bit; some context might help make sense of things.


Nearing the end of college, I put my faith in Jesus, and shortly after, I found myself in a small group of single men. Our leader challenged us to sit down and write out the things that mattered to us, things we wanted to be remembered for. Many years later, I found myself reading the words of my 20 something-year-old self to my wife on our second anniversary. I struggled to read those words out loud without crying as I saw them from my wife’s perspective, an outline of how I want to be remembered as a husband, father, sibling and friend.

I’m reminded of Hebrews 12:1-3: Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Consider him who endured such opposition from sinners, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.

I share this story not because I think we all need to sit down and write out our eulogy (sounds a little morbid to be honest) but because I think it’s vital to have checkpoints along the road of life where we can be reminded of what matters most; benchmarks against which we can hold ourselves accountable against as we fight for our family and future family.

Truthfully, this simple exercise in a small group of guys all seeking God’s face transformed my life, and years later, I’m still feeling the ripples of that season in my marriage as I fight to become the man I want to be. As you walk alongside your fight club and contend for what matters most, I pray that you will find similar moments of clarity, where you can be reminded of the legacy you are creating day after day.


For you,

Chandler + the Fight Club Team

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The Fight Club Team

Our Fight Club team is committed to helping the men of our House, city, and world come together and run the race God has called them to. Through focusing on four key areas; our walk with God, our heart and character, our families and future families, and our brothers; we believe that Fight Clubs can change the game as we fight for the things that matter most.